Matthew 18:15, “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone, if he listens you have gained your brother.”
When it comes to our Christian walk we must be willing at all times to forgive, so that when we bring our gifts to the altar they are accepted by God. There is a quote that says, “Forgive others as quickly as you expect God to forgive you”. Matthew 5:21-24 reads, “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not murder,’ and whoever murders will be liable to judgement; But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgement; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire.”
God addresses the one offended and the one doing the offending and the judgement seems to escalate for each offense; for the first offense judgment, the second offense liable to the council and the third offense liable to the fire of hell. Each of these offenses is serious to God and each has its consequences. Sometimes we make unintentional offenses and other times the intent is quite clear. Whatever the reason for an offense, the Bible tell us in Proverbs 19:11, “Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense”. As believers, we should be ready to give others the benefit of the doubt, which is a legal term that means if a jury has conflicting evidence that makes the jurors doubtful, they are to give a verdict of “not guilty”. Is benefit of the doubt our first thought when we are offended? If not, try replacing offended with love and see if forgiveness steps up to replace it. 1 Corinthians 13:7 reads, “Love bears all thing, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things”.