LIFE DOESN'T COME WITH A MANUAL, IT COMES WITH A MOTHER.
When it comes to mothers, there is very little ambivalence. Most people love their mothers and cherish the memory of them. Some, however, have a strained relationship that has caused bitterness to cloud their feelings. Because God knows what is best, He designed the home with a father and a mother. No one has a perfect mother, and only one mother had a perfect child, and none of us was that child.
The core of motherhood is not just in physically giving birth, but in spiritually raising her children in the training and instruction of the Lord. Four prominent areas of Biblically-based responsibility are:
- Loving her husband (Titus 2:4) – Without doubt, one of the greatest gifts a mother can give her children is to love her husband, their father. Children need the security of knowing their mother loves them, but also that she loves their father. To be a good mother, one must first be a good wife. Older women are commanded to teach this duty to the younger women.
- Loving her children (Titus 2:4) – This responsibility may not be as automatic or easy as some might believe, and it must sometimes be learned. A mother’s love is seen in many ways: touching them, telling them you love them, correcting them, praising them, being available to them, protecting them (physically and spiritually). And sometimes love is expressed by telling a child, “No,” because Mother knows best.
- Disciplining her children (Eph. 6:1-3; Col. 3:20) – Children are to obey both parents. Children need guidance and instruction. Parents make and enforce the rules. Respect for authority begins in the home, along with respect for the elderly, respect for the law, respect for God and His word.
- Spiritual training of children (Titus 2:3-5) – While the primary responsibility for spiritual training is given to fathers, mothers provide a valuable and necessary role in that instruction. Children learn first and best from following the example (even before the word) of their parents. In homes where there is no father, or the father is present but is not a Christian or is weak, the godly mother’s role in the children’s spiritual education is vital. A mother who sings with, teaches, and prays with her children is one of the most powerful forces on earth.
Hannah, the mother of Samuel (1 Sam. 1:20); Mary, the mother of Jesus (Luke1:26-38; 2:51-52); Eunice, the mother of Timothy (Acts 16:1-3; 2 Tim. 1:5, 3:14-17) – they are not renowned for their worldly success and achievements. We know and love them because they are godly mothers who taught their children well.
God has blessed each of us with a mother (we wouldn’t be here otherwise). The children of the “worthy woman” of Proverbs 31 rise up and call her blessed. If you aren’t already doing that, start now. Thank her and, most of all, thank God for her.